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How many times have you heard your children proclaim in anger, frustration, and sometimes tears: “I’m a failure! I’m all screwed up! I never succeed!” How many times has your daughter foregone going to a school party or going out with friends because she felt “fat” or “unpopular” and that she had no friends who really wanted to spend time with her?

As parents, it’s hard for us to hear our growing and maturing children express such self-negating sentiments about themselves, as their self-esteem and faith in their own abilities decline. When our children express such sentiment, it is typically a sign of poor self-image, which is characterized by low self-esteem and a lack of faith in one’s self and one’s personal ability to succeed and thrive both socially and academically.

How is self-image formed?

Self-image is the disparity between who we would like to be and who we are in reality. In other words, our children perceive themselves in relation to how they would like to view themselves. Their self-image depends on the thoughts and feelings they have developed toward themselves. They develop a low or high self-image in accordance with their failures and successes over the years, and in accordance with the feedback they receive from us, their parents, and from other educational figures that guide them as they grow up.

What are the elements of a poor self-image?

  • A person’s conviction that they possess no skill or talent – “I’m one of the few kids in my class who’s not good at anything – not at singing, not at dancing, and not at drawing. I have nothing to contribute to the party.”
  • A person’s belief that their own success has nothing to do with them – Children with a poor self-image live with the constant certainty that every success or positive event they experience is dependent on others. Characteristic explanations include reasoning such as “I had a good time at the party with Sarah from my class because she was nice to me,” or “I did well in the competition because the person who was competing against me didn’t feel well, not because I was better than him.”
  • A belief that their failure reflects their inability – “I fail every exam because I’m stupid and incompetent.” “I can’t run in the race at school because I’ll make my class lose.”
  • Disbelief that the situation will change in the future – “I’m not good at math, so I won’t do well at it in the future.” “I am not pretty now, and I will not be pretty or popular when I get older.”

The Relationship between Anxiety and Poor Self-Image

Children who suffer from poor self-image tend to develop anxieties and fears and are cautious about new social and academic experiences. The anxieties they develop include:

  • Test anxiety, as a result of poor self-image and low self-esteem.
  • Social anxieties characterized by introversion, lack of communication, seclusion resulting from poor self-image, and a sense of failure.
  • Attention and concentration disorders can also cause poor self-image, as children who suffer from such conditions begin experiencing failure at an extremely young age and by kindergarten already feel that they are unable to complete the same tasks as their friends.

How can we recognize poor self-image in our children?

As parents, we can identify manifestations of poor self-image in our children by paying attention to their explicit statements about their failures, their frustrations, and their inability to cope and perform tasks. In addition to such statements, our children’s behavior can provide signs and indications of self-image problems in the following ways:

  • Belligerence/aggressiveness – Which can find expression in a child’s use of physical force on his or her environment (friends and family), or verbal aggression interspersed with insulting curses aimed at concealing a sense of insecurity and sensitivity.
  • A failure to complete tasks – Children with a poor self-image tend to put off challenging tasks and sometimes engage in manipulation or seek out excuses to avoid tasks with a high chance of failure.
    Ignoring the problem to the point of denial – As in the case of children who have trouble understanding school material but repeatedly insist that the only reason they are unable to successfully contend with it is that they do not like the subject. This dynamic is characteristic of children with learning disabilities and attention and concentration disorders.
  • Domineeringness – Children with low self-esteem tend to develop domineering behavior toward those around them.
  • Clowning around – Children with a poor self-image attempt to hide their insecurity and to win the amity of their peers through clowning around and playing the fool.
  • Introversion – Insecurity and poor self-image sometimes cause children to be introverted and to seclude themselves, which influences their independence and their position within their social surroundings.

Treatment at the Ora Golan Center

This unique and innovative treatment method was developed by Dr. Ora Golan in 1990 as a natural and effective alternative for the treatment of poor self-image/anxiety in children. The Ora Golan Center’s treatment for poor self-image/anxiety focuses on identifying and eliminating the emotional block responsible for the child’s development of poor-self image and lack of self-esteem. In the event that, in addition to the behavior patterns typical of poor self-image, your child is experiencing physiological symptoms directly related to an emotional problem, we at the Ora Golan Center will find the cause of the problem and eliminate it at its root.

The Ora Golan Center’s treatment for poor self-image yields immediate long-term results – allowing children to better actualize their potential; strengthening their personal beliefs; providing them with emotional resilience and a belief in their own ability to succeed; and enabling them to be more focused on everyday tasks.

The Treatment Method

  • The treatment is performed by the therapist through light touch of the patient and involves no medical equipment and no psychological discussion.
  • The treatment consists of muscle resistance testing, verbal interaction, visualization, and light touch.
  • A course of treatment typically includes 6-10 treatment sessions of 20-30 minutes each.
  • It is an alternative treatment that involves no medication and has no side-effects.

An Explanation of the Treatment:

  • The body possesses an emotional system whose role it is to protect us.
  • Our emotional system remembers and files away everything our body experiences from the moment of fetal conception up to the present.
  • Sometimes, and under certain circumstances, emotional blocks such as the one causing poor self-image, low self-esteem, and introversion are formed and incorporated into the body at an early stage of life, only to have an impact on our behavior at a later point in time. Such emotional blocks may produce physiological symptoms, pain in different parts of the body, and a sense of discomfort bordering on illness.
  • The treatment method developed by Dr. Ora Golan enables us to identify the emotional block that is responsible for your child’s condition, as well as the stage of life in which it was formed and under what circumstances, and to eliminate it.

Benefits of the Treatment:

  • The treatment consists of muscle resistance testing, verbal interaction, visualization, and light touch.
  • It is an alternative treatment that involves no medication or medical equipment.
  • A course of treatment typically includes 6-10 treatment sessions of 20-30 minutes each.
    The treatment produces a significant internal change that is naturally assimilated into the body.
  • The treatment has a positive impact on the individual and achieves long-term results.
  • The treatment fuels, balances, and immunizes our emotional system.
  • The treatment is gentle and safe and has no side-effects.
  • The treatment is suitable for all ages, from children to adults.

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