Self-Confidence and Attention Disorders
Self confidence is the belief in one’s own abilities, such as the success of their own actions, the quality of their decisions, and the wisdom of the path they have chosen to follow. Self-confidence is one of the main components of self-esteem, which encompasses everything people think about themselves and their personal abilities. It is part of their image – which reflects their internal state – and is expressed in their body language, their tone of speech, and the energy they radiate.
Self-confidence is important in our lives on many different levels, from preschool and elementary school to the workplace and on line at the doctor’s office. Wherever we go, the image we present is the first thing that people experience about us. Our level of self-confidence has a major influence in this context and can determine whether we have friends and how many, the positions we are assigned in the workplace, the military, and other frameworks, and our eventual profession. People who lack self-confidence may allow others to take advantage of them and to advance at their expense or give up easily and refrain from insisting on things that are important to them. In this way, self-confidence plays a decisive role in many different realms of life.
Poor Self-Image and Attention Disorders
Attention disorders are often accompanied by poor self-image. Failures and lack of success often result in poor self-image in children and adults alike, as people tend to blame themselves for their inability to complete tasks as desired and feel inferior to those around them. Not everyone with a poor self-image has an attention disorder, but attention disorders undoubtedly make it more difficult for people to contend with the demands on them at all ages. The frustration caused by lack of success can sometimes lead to poor self-image.
Self-image is the gap between the person we would like to be and the person we are in reality. Self-image develops and is constructed based on successes and failures we experience during different stages of our lives. During each stage, our self-image influences our actions and our behavior in the world. The result can be a vicious circle based on our accumulated personal experiences, as illustrated in the following diagram:
Many people with poor self-image are characterized by a sense of hopelessness and despair, as they believe that their situation will not change in the future. This belief sometimes also operates negatively, as a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Adults and children with ADD/ADHD experience many failures beginning at a young age and therefore have a higher chance of developing a poor self-image. The responses of their surroundings also help shape such a self-image, as people with such conditions are considered to be disruptive, forgetful, and unsuccessful, and these behaviors overshadow their other qualities. They are also sometimes in need of full-time assistance or mediation and have difficulty internalizing the desired restrained behavior. Until recent years, there was very little awareness regarding attention disorders, and children suffering from them did not receive proper treatment. These children developed into adults with ADD/ADHD who attempted to adapt different kinds of coping mechanisms.
Do children suffering from attention disorders always suffer from poor self-image?
The answer to this question depends largely on the surroundings in which the individual grew up. Studies show that environment plays a major role in shaping self-image and that a supportive, encouraging environment helps children build a positive self-image, even when the child in question suffers from ADD or ADHD. A disparaging environment devoid of tolerance and empathy, on the other hand, has been found to have precisely the opposite effect and to be implicated in the formation of poor self-image.
How can poor self-image be identified and treated?
Fortunately, poor self-image is a condition that can be identified based on a number of symptoms and that can also be treated. Some of the symptoms are behavioral and can be observed through extended observation. Others are indirect manifestations that are suggestive of poor self-image. Although children and adults develop strategies and mechanisms for coping with the feelings caused by poor self-image, these devices are of no benefit and actually serve to perpetuate poor self-image and preclude the possibility of change. Below is a list of examples of such behaviors:
- Introversion and a tendency for depression and anxiety.
- Denial and ignoring of the problem – Treating the problem as if it does not need to be dealt with and does not present difficult emotions or challenges.
- Avoidance or delay of undertakings with a high chance of failure.
- Fear of failure or success – Avoidance of the experience itself, regardless of its outcome. ⦁ Tough self-criticism (“I’m unsuccessful,” “I’m stupid,” “I’m worthless”)
- The use of force and violence and an effort to seek out weak individuals to whom a person with a poor self-image can feel superior, confident, and strong.
- The display of controlling behavior toward others in order to compensate for the lack of control in their own lives. ⦁ Self-deprecation for the sake of others.
- The tendency to behave in accordance with the expectations of those around them.
- Excessive joking and humor – The tendency to turn everything into a joke, especially when under stress.
Low self-esteem is neither predetermined nor impossible to change and can certainly be treated and greatly improved. The first, crucial step is recognition that a problem exists. When the individual in question is a child, this is the responsibility of the parents. In such cases, it is always a good idea to consult a professional and to seek a second opinion.
Self-esteem is a psychological issue of immense importance due to the influential role it plays in shaping adult life. When patients are undergoing treatment, they should be surrounded by a safe and stable environment in order to enable them to part with the coping strategy they developed and to rebuild their self-image. Treatment is an extended process accompanied by numerous experiences aimed at helping the patient develop new effective coping mechanisms, while at the same time accumulating a collection of positive experiences reflecting success. During the process, patients strengthen their capacity for emotional regulation, develop new relationships with their environment, and, as a result, become capable of optimism regarding their future and chances of success, without fear of contending with challenges.
Treatment at the Ora Golan Center
In 1990, Dr. Ora Golan developed a unique and innovative method for treating poor self-image in adults and children. The treatment focuses on the root of the problem and yields quick, long-term results that contribute considerably to people’s ability to fulfill their own potential, reconstruct their self-image, control their fears, and leave their sense of failure behind.
The treatment is short and focused and consists of six treatment sessions of only 20 minutes each (with the exception of the first session, which lasts 40 minutes). The treatment is performed by the therapist through light touch of the patient and involves no medical equipment and no psychological discussion. It is based on muscle resistance testing, verbal interaction, and visualization. The treatment also involves no medication and has no side-effects.
Treatment at the Ora Golan Center is based on the elimination of emotional blocks and works via the emotional system. Emotional memory is a powerful force that encompasses everything experienced by the individual from the fetal stage until the present. In the course of our lives, we develop emotional blocks that influence our behavior at later stages and that may also result in physiological symptoms such as various bodily pains and a feeling of illness.
The Ora Golan Center’s method of treatment is divided into two stages:
- ⦁ Stage I – Identification of the relevant emotional blocks and assessment of the circumstances and stage of life in which they were formed.
- ⦁ Stage II – Elimination of these blocks through the use of light touch.
The treatment fuels, balances, and immunizes our emotional system, and is suitable for adults and children alike.